“Disappearing can be quite the coping mechanism for those of us who fear abandonment the very most of all. If we disappear, you have to find us. You’re the one who worries. We know where we are, but you can’t leave me. I’m in charge and doing the leaving. Not the other way around.”—Jennifer Neal (via soldierofink)
even when i was reading the book, i rooted for milady. just because she was a woman. i’ve spent too much of my life hating fictional women because i didn’t understand the misogyny and sexism in the writers’ rooms. or, in the case of dumas, the writer’s desk. all women deserve our support and our effort to look past the misogyny ingrained in their characterization. i still rooted for her. if anything, i rooted for her harder because she had been done wrong by the writer.
but the bbc the show turned the misogyny of dumas into the misogyny of the bad guys. misogyny and the patriarchy became not only the things holding milady back, but also the real villains of the plot. by showing us how milady was exploited by the patriarchal system, and making milady into a sympathetic character and a victim, the audience is given to understand that the patriarchy is the true villain of the story, not milady.